I Have Worth - I Can Practice Courage
I just finished listening to a "Ted Talk" and wanted to share the link with my readers.
Brene Brown wonderfully covers vulnerability.
I started on-line dating a few months ago and I am constantly feeling afraid and vulnerable when I find someone interesting, get a connection with a message or have a date.
I want to have companionship. I want to connect to the male species.
I met a man for coffee this weekend. We spent a few hours together and it was nice.
When I meet someone it's important thing for me to give the person a chance. To be openminded and not be quick to judge them. For me to see them, to listen to them, to catch any signals they're being phony or insincere.
I have to do the same for myself. I don't want to be self-critical. I want to trust who I am and stick with myself. I want to listen to my gut and watch carefully the voice
inside me saying, "I'm not good enough."
In Brene Brown's talk she mentions how we want to have CERTAINTIES. We want things to be PERFECT. We want to hold back our true selves in order to protect our vulnerability.
I agree with her. I have to be myself or I won't be seen. I don't want to have to backtrack and say:
"By the way, I buy most of my clothes at resale shops and I don't like to waste money."
"Oh, I forgot to tell you, I'm imperfect and flawed."
"I like my solitude, so don't plan on me spending every hour of the day with you."
"I like adventure, sitting around waiting for things to happen doesn't suit me."
Will my honesty turn away potential dates? Probably. Connecting with someone with pretense is a waste of my time, anyway - and theirs!
My son's advice is "Don't have any expectations." It's been working for me.
If you want to believe your worthy of connection, watch this link.
https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability#t-1200386
Brene Brown wonderfully covers vulnerability.
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| Brene Brown |
I want to have companionship. I want to connect to the male species.
I met a man for coffee this weekend. We spent a few hours together and it was nice.
When I meet someone it's important thing for me to give the person a chance. To be openminded and not be quick to judge them. For me to see them, to listen to them, to catch any signals they're being phony or insincere.
I have to do the same for myself. I don't want to be self-critical. I want to trust who I am and stick with myself. I want to listen to my gut and watch carefully the voice
inside me saying, "I'm not good enough."
In Brene Brown's talk she mentions how we want to have CERTAINTIES. We want things to be PERFECT. We want to hold back our true selves in order to protect our vulnerability.
I agree with her. I have to be myself or I won't be seen. I don't want to have to backtrack and say:
"By the way, I buy most of my clothes at resale shops and I don't like to waste money."
"Oh, I forgot to tell you, I'm imperfect and flawed."
"I like my solitude, so don't plan on me spending every hour of the day with you."
"I like adventure, sitting around waiting for things to happen doesn't suit me."
Will my honesty turn away potential dates? Probably. Connecting with someone with pretense is a waste of my time, anyway - and theirs!
My son's advice is "Don't have any expectations." It's been working for me.
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| NO Checklist of Expectations |
https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability#t-1200386
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